BROWSE MUMMYMETALLER'S GALLERY
You know you want to
After being on the internet for as long as I have, I’m noticing a few behaviours I had to deal with people outside the net; translating onto online activity at an alarming rate, & it’s making me realise that I’ve officially turned into that grouchy Rick-type of character (from Rick & Morty, I have a hip flask & everything for fuck sake ha).
Now; most people when they experience abuse (from where ever the source/sources of that abuse may originate from) & they’re able to finally get away & be left with the memories of their life experiences, they tend to go through a phase in their life where their misery reflects into how they treat others around them.
They have been hurt, mistreated, torn down, made to feel worthless. So; they seem to think that it’s ‘ok’ for them to be hateful, to be angry at everyone & everything around them, because they are suffering or struggling, because life has been unfair to them so far, & if people they meet don’t ‘get it’ as to why they’re this overly cynical & generally hateful person, then it’s because these people are stupid, & they’ve obviously never suffered at the level that the suffering person has.
I went through this phase in my younger years, but becoming a parent at a young age (planned; yes I wanted kids) kicked me the fuck out of that mentality after a few years. I’m able to look back at that time & understand why I was the way I was, just as I understand why some of the younger people I have met also behave this way. They are in pain, they’re struggling & they’re stuck in a whirlpool of their own hatred & negativity.
But let’s be honest here folks, who the fuck hasn’t experienced abuse/shit growing up, or into their adult years? From either parents, family members, bullies, friends, strangers etc? Everyone has their own story, their own ways in which they have suffered. This was something else that kicked me out of that mentality, actually talking to people & hearing their stories, some of which sound like they’re straight out of a fucking horror movie! These things from people who you would never expect have been through such horrifying ordeals, it really puts some things into perspective.
I’m someone who has experienced shit since childhood, which went into my adult years alongside some other shit that popped up, & some things were even so bad it sent me into the downward spiral of a mental breakdown, & I wish I was exaggerating about that, but sadly I’m not. Self harm, suicide planning, pills yadda yadda you know how it is, again, who out there hasn’t been pushed to the brink because of the shit they’ve been through? (& no I’m not disclosing anything about my past here; no offence but fuck off it’s personal, all I will say is that my kids got pretty fucking upset when they were told a few things)
Ok so; where am I getting at with this?
Kids. If you’ve been through terrible things in your life, or if you’re going through them right now, I have a life lesson here for you.
How YOU choose to treat others around you, reflects soley on YOU & YOU ALONE!
Not your past, not your abuser, not your mental conditions. The people you talk down to; mistreat etc. They will remember the things you said, how you treated them & how you made them feel, not the fact that you had a bad past or are going through a tough time.
I actually know some people outside the net who have been diagnosed with things like Bipolar disorder, & they actually use this as an excuse to be an abusive piece of shit to those around them, & when confronted about their shitty behaviour, they make out that the person doing the confronting is the villain, because this abusive person has a ‘mental condition’.
I know plenty about mental conditions (that’s all I’m going to say about that) & I know plenty of people with a range of different mental conditions, & I fucking know when someone is genuinely struggling & when someone is just being a dick.
Which comes back to my point. Going through tough times; abuse etc. It is never ok to lash out at others around you & try to drag them down because of these things, ever. By doing that YOU are contributing to the cycle of misery, you are being a bully, & that is never ok!
You can see how these people are hurting you/ have hurt you; so instead of living up to the monkey-see-monkey-do mentality, rise above it, be a better person. Because playing the brooding/cynical person due to their dark past really shows your mental & emotional immaturity.
Of course I am not saying anyone is wrong for being so terribly affected by the bad things that happened to them in their past, people suffer from terrible affects of abuse etc & it’s heart breaking. I’m still affected greatly by a lot of shit, but my point is, I don’t think that makes it ‘ok’ to be overtly disrespectful & hurtful to those around me. I don’t hold myself above others because of my experiences, I’m just another meat bag wandering this giant rock just like everyone else, but I know what it is to suffer, I know what it is to feel unbearable pain & struggle on a daily basis because of problems… So for fuck sake I’m going to do what I can to bring some fucking light into this shithole, I’m going to try & make others laugh, make them smile, because there’s enough fucking shitting bollocks in this world as it is, & I refuse to contribute more to it! & I am going to acknowledge the good that is out there!
Plus music & art are a great way to get all that crap out, the good & the bad.
We need those moments to feel shitty, just cry & rage, but never direct it at other people! Do it in your art, every time those moments strike; get it out creatively, not by attacking others! Because doing that puts you on the same level as the people who are abusive pieces of crap; & no one wants to be on the same level as those people.
You’re smarter & stronger than that. So go out there; wear your scars with pride; & use your experiences to make a positive difference. Unify & lift people up; instead of dividing & dragging people down.